Growing up, we’re all fed the same fairytale ending: We’ll find our person, they’ll offer us love and devotion, they’ll complete us, and together, we’ll settle into a life of fulfillment. From story books, to romantic comedies, to the arc of almost every book, romantic partnering is presented as the ideal. Surprise, things aren’t that easy.…
Representation matters. The way we and our communities are portrayed matters. In observing queer characters in books, movies, and on television, we see options for who we can be and validation of who we already are. As human beings, we are in constant need of affirmation that we are not alone—that our thoughts and experiences aren’t isolated.…
Every few weeks, advertising for a new “date rape prevention” product pops up in my news feed—nail polish, coasters, and straws, all claiming to be able to detect rape-facilitating drugs in your drink and, therefore, to be effective tools in preventing sexual assault. The comments section is always lit up with remarks such as “What a great idea!,” or “So needed!” But few are willing to point out the many flaws with risk-prevention efforts like drug-testing tools and the negative…
On this Valentine’s Day, many of us find ourselves dreaming of finding that special someone who will make life that much sweeter. Five years ago, I had the honor of meeting two amazing women who found and have sustained that sweetness in one another—both as a couple, and as the founders of the South Daytona–based chocolaterie, Sappho Chocolates.…
By Dr. Laura McGuire Activism: noun, /ˈaktəˌvizəm/ efforts to promote, impede, direct, or intervene in social, political, economic, or environmental reform with the desire to make changes in society. I have been an activist since I was seven years old. I believe that some of us are born with a special gene that propels us to be active in changing the world we live in. It’s not something we have to work at; it’s something we can’t live without. We…
By Dr. Laura McGuire The holidays can be a tough time for queer people: family members using the wrong pronouns, parters being excluded, and hurtful political opinions. In this month’s Asking for a Friend, Dr. Laura McGuire discusses how to set boundaries with family during the holidays and in the New Year. Like this video? Make sure to subscribe to get more Asking for a Friend each month. Sexually curious? Dr. Laura McGuire can help! Email your queer sex questions anonymously to [email protected]. Don’t worry, we…
It's the most wonderful time of the year…or so they say. Packages are wrapped, lights are hung, and holiday songs fill the airwaves. People are making plans to gather together with both their given and chosen families. Whether you celebrate Yule, Hanukkah, Christmas, or Kwanza, this is a time of year that builds many bridges between who we are, where we came from, and where we are going. It’s a season of faith, family, and truth—a combination that can be…
What does it mean to be non-binary? Does non-binary identity look a certain way? Dr. Laura McGuire answers these questions—and shares their personal story of coming out as non-binary—in this month's Asking for a Friend.…
Ah, U-Hauling. How do you know when you're ready to shack up with your significant other? What does sharing space together all the time really look like? In this month's Asking for a Friend, Dr. Laura McGuire shares her tips for when two homes become one.…
When I first came out, I had a realization that both excited and perplexed me—I could wear anything I wanted. No longer having to appeal to the male gaze, I was free to be aesthetically pleasing to a whole new audience. This is a common experience for queer people who have just come out; they realize for the first time that, because their sexuality is now beyond the normative social constructs, so are their hair and clothing choices.…
