All of this is done over web camera—the physical and legal protection of which I am grateful. On camera, there are no STDs, no vice squad, and a far lower risk of being followed home by fans. Online, my clients and I explore our common kinks and sexual tastes while preserving the delicate balance of our vanilla off-camera lives. For numerous reasons, many of my clients need to keep their desires to be dominated and sexually-controlled private. They have jobs…
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Abi Robins Teaches Accessible, Queer-Inclusive Yoga with a Twist in ATX
Posted on January 23, 2018Austin-based yoga instructor Abi Robins’ life changed when they stepped into a yoga studio for the first time in 2013. A friend in Siloam Springs, Arkansas dragged Robins to a hot power yoga class, which contradicted Robins’ preconceived idea that yoga was simply breathing and stretching in a quiet room. After an intense workout that left Robins drenched in sweat, they laid on their back for five minutes in the final shavasana resting pose. In that moment, they felt a…
The Queer Southern Wedding I Didn’t Need to Throw
Posted on January 8, 2018I spent most of 2017 planning (and secretly dreading) a queer southern wedding. My partner and I were together for nearly seven years before getting engaged, and a full eight before the actual wedding. We went through undergrad, grad school, four apartments, three cats, two dogs, countless trips together, an infinite number of laughs and tears, and more than a handful of awkward family moments before getting to the alter. …
A Place to Call Home: Finding Peace in My Queer Jewish Identity
Posted on December 12, 2017When my family celebrates Hanukkah, I know two things to be true every year: I will eat entirely too much and I will be interrogated like a criminal suspect. I don’t have a single family member or Jewish friend who hasn’t been asked, “So when are you going to marry a nice Jewish boy?” What am I supposed to say to that? “Well bubbe, I actually have a live-in girlfriend. We’ve been together for five years. We sleep in the…
Meet Fran Watson: Queer Black Houston Lawyer and Activist Seeks Texas Senate Seat
Posted on October 10, 2017As an assistant professor of Women’s, Gender & Sexuality Studies and Comparative Cultural Studies at University of Houston, I’m particularly thrilled to see candidates who make the Texas political landscape reflective of the diversity of Houston. I’ve had the privilege of getting to know Fran Watson through the city’s LGBTQ activist networks, and have seen her consistently show up to serve and engage with many different Texas communities. Fran and I traveled to Austin together this spring—as part of a…
Where Have All The Lesbians Gone?: Exploring Our Sapphic Herstory
Posted on October 2, 2017It’s the same thing at almost every LGBTQ millennial women’s event I attend—“I’m queer.” “I’m gay.” “I’m questioning.” “I’m bisexual.” “I’m pansexual.” “I’m heteroflexible.” No one is a self-identified lesbian. Not today, not anymore.…
Your Friendly Neighborhood Queer: Rooster Teeth’s Mariel Salcedo
Posted on September 29, 2017Mariel Salcedo has become a Rooster Teeth fan favorite, previously producing and guest starring in the now cult classic, Free Play, before taking on her current role on Always Open. For the production company’s LGBTQ devotees, however, she’s more than a comedic Internet celebrity—she’s someone they can connect to on a deeper level, someone they can call their own.…
Señorita Cinema: Meet the Queer Filmmaker Behind the World’s Only All-Latina Film Festival
Posted on July 7, 2017Texas filmmaker Stephanie Saint Sanchez used to work at a mom-and-pop video rental store for many years. She would wander through the aisles and look at the covers of the shop’s nearly 70,000 movies, mesmerized by the fact that each film started off as a small idea in someone’s mind—and, for better or for worse, they persevered and saw their idea through to the end. …
Beyond Borderlands: Reconciling Queerness in the Rio Grande Valley
Posted on June 12, 2017It’s been eight years since I left the Valley, but the Valley is my very being, and I carry it everywhere I go. The Valley and my queerness are equal parts of me. They’re both intrinsic to my identity as a queer Tejana — a diehard Texan with Mexican roots, a proud lesbiana, y Xicana.…